a whiff of grapeshot

about a week ago my condy anemone was acting weird. first it was lying upside down in the sand and it bloated up and it looked like it was turing inside out, then it flipped back over the next day but still looked bloated and it let out some milky white stuff and i thought it was spawning. then it looked fine for one day, it opened up about half way. now it looks like this. its been this way for about two days now. anyone know what's going on here? is it dead?

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can anyone id this fish?

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i found this on the glass this morning. these are snails eggs right? is there anything i can to to make sure they hatch in my tank and not get eaten?

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ive had my 39 gallon going for about two months now with an eshopps nano overflow going into a 15 gallon rubermaid sump. my overflow box is making too much noise, how can i silence it?